So the damage has been done. We are trying to fix our marriage. How am I to be a supportive wife in our enormous task before us?
I must look for the red flags that appeared when the damage was being done, but I must also keep on guard for the habits that led us down this path.
I need to tell my husband all the time I know he can be a better man.
I need to encourage him and applaud every little effort he makes towards bettering our marriage.
I need to insist without exception, that there be no female friends that he has time alone with, and hold myself to the same rules with male friends.
I need to learn to trust again, but with caution this time.
I need to understand that he is capable of falling, and never again fool myself that either of us aren't capable of great error.
I need to realize that there is a danger, and our marriage isn't incapable of penetration.
I need to refrain from punishing him for what he did.
I need to reaffirm him in my love.
I need to always be encouraging him to look to God first for strength, comfort, wisdom, and only after that, to me.
I need to remind myself and him of the good that there is between us.
I need to ensure that neither one of us ever falls into the comfort and complacency of thinking that things are "good enough the way they are" and there isn't more work to do.
I need to pray ever day that the Lord with give him strength to become the man HE wants him to be.
Thursday, June 01, 2006
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I identified with many of the things you said on here. The one that stood out the most was the part about falling into the trap of feeling like everything is okay or everything will be okay.
Going forward, instead of us saying "everything will be okay when the semester is over" or "we will have time to work on this soon" I want to say, if something is disconnected, we drop everything and fix it now. If you see ANYTHING that makes you concerned or at any point start feeling your love tank go down, I want to know immediately. I may not be able to get up right away and leave work, but usually we should be able to work through it same day.
I love you, thank you for sharing with me, thank you for staying with me.
Good enough is not going to be good enough. We can't go a full day without working on the issue if there is one. The devil will take any opportunity to use any strain to pull us apart.
I'm sorry, and I love you.
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