Taking responsibility

I need to preface that I know I didn't make the decision for my husband to cheat on me. I also know that I was trying to be loving, supportive, and understanding in the time that led up to the affair. As far as my treatment of him, I believe I did my best. I don't believe I pushed him into another woman's arms.

That being said, if "the two will become one body" (Eph 5:23), can one party have absolutely no part in the life and decisions of the other? Can a husband and wife really act so entirely independently of one another?

I have been trying over and over to see what I could have done differently to prevent this. Maybe I couldn't have stopped the affair, but there is one area where I feel...I know I was negligent. In our three years of marriage, I have never once prayed for my husband's purity and heart to be preserved within the folds of our marriage. It was pride on my part completely. It never even occured to me that my husband could be tempted away from me and his heart and body be given to another woman. The image that I held my husband in as a man above great temptation should have been reserved only for Our Lord. I neglected to pray for him in this very important area. Till the day I die, it will not happen again.

My love, forgive me for not praying for your purity.