On cosmos-liturgy-sex.com, they had a post about Ghandi's views on birth control. The quotes below stood out so strikingly to me about the views of your past lover.
“birth controllers turn vice into virtue. When sexual indulgence is regarded a virtue, it will be the undoing of man.”
If mutual consent makes a sexual act moral, whether within marriage or without, and, by parity of reasoning, even between members of the same sex, the whole basis of sexual morality is gone and nothing but misery and defect awaits the youth of the country… It is futile to hope that the use of contraceptives will be restricted to the mere regulation of progeny. There is hope for a decent life only so long as the sexual act is definitely related to the conception of precious life. This rules out of court perverted sexuality and, to a lesser degree, promiscuity. Divorce of the sexual act from its natural consequence must lead to hideous promiscuity and condonation, if not endorsement, of unnatural vice.
You told me that she didn't understand how sex with you was wrong, even though she knew you were married, because you were both consenting adults. If you both were okay with it, how could anyone say it was bad? Look at the rest of the quote, though. That moment of passionate weakness between the two of you has left all of us in such misery. When you were together, it was by obvious deliberate intent and forethought on her part. Maybe if she didn't have a way to insure she wouldn't get pregnant, it wouldn't have happened at all (since the affair was by deliberate design, not weakness in the moment on her part). But in all her conniving, she did consider not wanting to conceive when she laid her trap. I don't think she cared about that so much when it happened again, because at that point, she was pretty secure in your feelings and hoped that you two would have a permanent bond.
My friend who went through this experience on the other side said that being on the pill was the only reason she thought it safe to be involved in an affair. Fear of pregnancy would have been enough for her to keep away.
Look at the misery such wrecklessness has caused. Her well made plans opened the door for another encounter that was even more irresponsible. If it hadn't happened that first time, I doubt she would have been confident enough to try it on that other occasion. What a depraved society we live in, when the only consequence to promiscuity we fear is pregnancy. People never think about how their actions can hurt themselves and others: can destroy people's lives forever. People don't think about broken hearts, lack of trust, loneliness, lack of self-respect. I hate thinking about raising our child in such an immoral world where there are so many evil people with evil desires, and aren't willing to live their ways alone: they have to drag everyone else down with them.
Oh God, please protect our child from the snares of the world! Please give him a strong heart and conscience and the wisdom to see evil for what it is. Don't let our son go through this grief. Please, Lord.
Friday, June 23, 2006
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Definitely not placing blame elsewhere, but a comment your Aunt made has me thinking. "there have been too many secrets." Perhaps if I had grown up in a place where that did not exist I would have been better on the lookout for these things. Perhaps we can raise our child in an environment where all things are discussed openly (not dirty like the movie last night, but openly) then we can make our child aware of these things and strengthen him against the temptations. Thoughts?
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