Monday, September 18, 2006

How do I feel about continuing to dialogue this week?

Dearest Love,
You are so amazing. Very few husbands would be so willing to discuss feelings. I know it isn't always easy for you, but you have never shown irritation or resentment by my needing it.

I feel excited about dialoguing with you this week and in the future. It is excitement over facing the unknown, kind of like I described in my last letter to you on the weekend. I am so eager to grow closer to you and stronger as a couple. I get excited to read your blog everyday even though I know sometimes what you have to say is painful, because I truly see any insight into your beautiful soul as a gift. In general, maybe we don't have to use their specific format for writing, but sometimes it might be helpful. I feel like you and I are getting very good at communication, and that has been something that I have always been proud of in our relationship and in you.

I can see times when we need to ask for dialogue and use their format if there is a sensitive issue and one of us worries that our feelings might be rejected or belittled. If we begin to feel that way, one of us must ask for a time out to write and then discuss or ask for a safe moment to express feelings.

In our dialoguing this week, whatever form we use, I know that some things might come out that cause pain, but that's okay. It is a step towards a closer and deeper love than we already have.

Love Always,

Your Spouse

3 comments:

Mea Culpa said...

shoot, I forgot to write mine in letter format!

wanting to heal said...

That's okay, love!

Mea Culpa said...

I agree - times for dialogue will come up, but I think we just need to continue down our trail. I feel as though we are on the right trail already, just need to continue moving down it.